The Introvert’s Guide to Networking: Empathy, Curiosity, and Real Talk

When it comes to networking, many — especially international students and immigrants — have negative thoughts (because this was me too!) :  

“It’s too hard, I don’t know who to reach out to!”  

“I hate small talk. It’s a waste of time.”  

“I’m an introvert. Networking’s not for me.”  

“I’m new to this country. I know nobody and can’t compete with locals.”  

“Nobody responds to my cold messages. This will never work.”

It’s normal to feel this way — I’ve been there. Networking isn’t easy, and even locals struggle. But let’s be honest: it can significantly boost your career, and here’s something even more surprising — it can help you become a better person.

How??

Networking for Introverts

1. Networking Makes Empathy a Habit  

One of the biggest mistakes is viewing networking as something you only do when you need a job — just asking for favors. If that’s been your approach, it’s no wonder you’re hearing crickets. Would you respond to someone who only shows up when they need something? Networking isn’t transactional; it’s about building and maintaining relationships. Like any relationship, it requires investment.  

Leave thoughtful comments on LinkedIn posts, send personalized holiday wishes, check in when people are affected by layoffs or bad news, and regularly update others while asking how they’re doing.  

Remember, compound interest works in networking, too.  

2. Networking Teaches the Power of Giving Back  

Early in my career, I worried, “What can I offer in return? I don’t want to owe anyone.” But as I grew professionally, I realized opportunities to give back often arise unexpectedly.  

The professor who helped me get a part-time job later asked me to speak to their class. A colleague I worked well with asked me to help with mock interviews. My former boss, who wrote me a business school recommendation, asked for a referral for her husband.  

The point? You never know when you’ll have a chance to give back—but when it happens, it feels amazing.

3. Networking Nurtures Curiosity  

“Everyone is a book.” If you’re genuinely curious about their stories, motivations, challenges, and dreams, you can turn shallow small talk into meaningful conversations.  

Don’t just ask, “What do you do?” or “Where did you study?” Instead, try, “How did you get here?” or “What’s your company’s business model?” Ask about challenges they’re facing, industry trends, or relevant news. Even simple questions like “How so?” or “Can you tell me more?” can deepen conversations.  

You’ll be surprised by the hidden gems you can uncover. As Steve Jobs once said, “Stay foolish, stay hungry.”

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Final Thoughts

Networking doesn’t require extroversion. It requires empathy, generosity, and curiosity—all of which you already have. And when you show up with those, you’ll build not just a network—but a reputation.

So next time you hesitate to reach out, remember: every conversation is a chance to connect, learn, and grow—not just as a professional, but as a person.

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